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Initiation by Narcissist

They wouldn't tear you down if they didn't think

you were so far above them.

The traits and tactics of narcissism are like a blade designed to whittle you down into a compliant, dependent, shadow of yourself.

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When you're most flattened, you have the most potential to rise. 

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Whether you encounter these characteristics in true narcissists, in people who mean well but ape narcissism because it's what's modeled, in organizations or workplaces, or even in the macrocosm of societies and belief systems, the path to recovery and restoration is the same: it's you.

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You are the path because it's your wholeness that has been compromised, sacrificed, corrupted. 

I was ensnared by a narcissist over 20 years ago.

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My recovery has taken me deep into learning about trauma responses, cortisol and its effects on the mind and body, reparenting, boundaries, mind control tactics, self-care, the Yin and Yang of empath and narcissist, grief, the nervous system, somatic healing, communication, self-respect, herbs for depression and anxiety, the patterns of people who end up with narcissists and the patterns of people who are 'immune' to them, and anything else you can think of related to rebuilding a life that's been burned to the ground.

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I've gotten terrible advice from people who didn't know what I was going through: to 'just' forgive, move on, look on the bright side, trust that everything would work out, etc, etc. They meant well, but the greater message was that I was on my own in this.

 

Those positive sentiments aren't bad, they just don't work in the context of recovering from the kind of abuse narcissists specialize in- psychological manipulation, humiliation, and destruction of your sense of self.

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What I learned from doing this on my own is that no one should have to. 

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• Week 1 •

Assessment- Tailoring the Program to You

The Four Bodies

Cultivating Sovereign Safety

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• Week 2 •

Needs + Worth​

Cortisol

Physical Body

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• Week 3 •

Yin&Yang, Empath&Narcissist

Re-parenting​

Emotional Body

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• Week 4 •

Spiritual Body

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• Week 5 •

Mental Body

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• Week 6 •

Sovereignty​

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A relationship with a narcissist can decimate your trust, your sense of self, your nervous system, your credit score and more.

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While absolutely nobody deserves the deeply destabilizing experience of trusting someone who wants to destroy them, once it's happened, the next best thing is to reap every ounce of strength and wisdom from an unforgivable situation.

 

The narcissist tried to destroy you.

The best revenge is to show them the experience

made you stronger than ever. 

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This is what we call Initiation by Narcissist.

I met my narcissist in 2001.

 

Over 20 years later, he's still in my life, and will be-

to some degree- for as long as we share a daughter.

 

 

, though it took me many yeas to accept he was a narcissist (first I suspected addiction, bipolar, Asperger's syndrome (as high functioning autism used to be called).

How to Join

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1. Schedule your 30 minute intake meeting.

This will be your regular time, if you decide to continue.

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2. Pay your deposit. I'll send you an invoice through PayPal.

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3. During the intake, we'll talk about your specifics and you'll be able to ask any more questions you have about me or the program.

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After that, you can pay the balance and continue or get a full refund (minus PayPal's minor processing fee)

An intensive 1:1 program

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6 1:1 private sessions with me, 90 minutes each

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Light homework between sessions + an hour of text support each week

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Each session will allow time to

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• talk about what you're currently dealing with

• unpack another dynamic of narcissism

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FAQ

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Q. Is this an online course?

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A. No. This is a series of private sessions with me that are curated to the topic I've been living for the past 20+ years- the experience of narcissistic abuse and using it to become more resilient and grounded than you were before they came into your life.

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We will meet weekly and there will be homework 

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Q. Who is this course for?

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A. This program is specific to people recovering from adult relationships with narcissists (or other personality disorders) and are no longer cohabiting with their abuser. If your narcissist was a parent, then.....

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Q. What is your guarantee?

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A. I guarantee that this series will help you think about your experience differently, have more compassion and patience with yourself, and feel more empowered in your healing and your life.

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We begin with a 30 minute intake- if the connection doesn't feel right to you, you can get a full refund of your deposit at that point.

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After that, if you choose to leave the program at any time, you can be refunded for the unused sessions (processing fees- imposed by PayPal) apply.

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Q. Why do you only take payment from PayPal?

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A. Because I live in the Dark Ages and like it there. ; ) I also accept checks, if you're a fellow bog-dweller or if you're young and just want to say you tried it. 

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Other narcissist-recovery programs focus on education about narcissism and strategies for addressing those.

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Initiation by Narcissist will cover these topics, but it was important to me that the victim be the focus more than the perpetrator.

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I've funneled in my years of experience with trauma healing and nervous system work, herbalism, and womb-healing to curate an experience that will make you feel like a new person.

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Addressing the Effects of Trauma

• somatic work

• journaling

• verbal ventilation

• parenting while wounded

• baseline self-care

• core beliefs

• herbs for the nervous system

• processing grief and anger

• people-pleasing and self-abandonment

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Addressing the Effects of Psychological Abuse

• self-esteem

• self-trust 

• worth

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Addressing the Effects of Excess Cortisol

• herbs for the nervous system and hormone balancing

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Limited time offer. 

We'll begin as an 8-week program, with the option to continue up to 12 at the same rate ($120/ session)

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