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Self-Care Advent, Day 1: : Past Tense

Updated: Dec 1, 2020

Hello dear one.


I have so many things that I should be doing rather than coordinating advent activities for every single one of the next 20 days! But this idea came to me and wouldn't let go and I know why: because we all really really need this. Because whatever camps we've sorted ourselves into of pro- this or anti- that, we are all the same in our worry and confusion and completely depleted adrenal glands.



So today I want to share something that came to me in a recent desperate moment- I needed to lift myself out of the incredible density of the situation I was in. Not because the situation and my feelings about it weren't real, but because I couldn't see the way forward- let alone actually move in that direction- in my state.


And then, out of the ether, it came to me that when the way forward seems murky, you can jump ahead and instead see the way back from where your Self will be in 2, 5, 10 years from now, when this present moment is just a memory. I know that these days every single one of us can relate to the way forward feeling murky.


I started to write. I let out everything I was struggling with, everything I was unsure of- and it was all PAST TENSE. I felt so much compassion flowing from my future Self to my current Self! I wrote about all the things I was struggling with 5 years ago (yesterday), let all of those feelings move through me and out of me and then, without much detail, added a short paragraph about how it was hard for a while and I don't know how I got through it, but I did.



And then, crucially, a final paragraph about what life is like 'now'. Of course there will always be struggles, but really put your spirit into feeling what, on a foundational level, you want to be different. What really needs to change? Do you want to feel more secure? Do you want to feel more supported? Do want to have more faith, more connection, more wonder, more clarity?


Breathe into what it would feel like to embody this and then, as your future Self, extend all your compassion and knowledge that it's going to be okay to your present Self.


This is a very simple practice that you can make as elaborate as you like- sacred smoke, calling your Spirits and Ancestors around you, candles. But remember to set yourself up to succeed. If you just do this practice in the simplest way- on scrap paper with maybe a hot drink beside you- you will still feel the spaciousness that arrives when we take a step away from our day to day concerns.


And now I'm going to take my own medicine and do this practice again.....


Keep an eye out for Day 2 arriving tomorrow!




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